Our fragile lives…
Dearest buddies,
I was doing so good today, feeling so strong and healthy and happy. Then my hubby called me with the worst news - a very dear friend of ours was in a dreadful car accident on Tuesday morning with his precious wife, Megan. They were rushed to the hospital where Megan was pronounced “brain dead.” She is now gone from our midst, returning to live with her Father in Heaven. The news hit me like a ton of bricks. Her husband suffers alone now in the hospital, and feels like he has no reason for living. My hubby and I are going to the hospital here in a few minutes to be with him. But what words of comfort could we possibly have to offer him? He has a two year old son named Teacum, who will now never know his mother on this earth. My heart aches for them. Why do things like this have to happen to such good people? What are the reasons surrounding these tragic events..? Only our God knows and understands - it’s up to us to have faith in Him, and trust Him. However, we all still need support.
Please keep us and our dear friends in your prayers, buddies. I would really appreciate that. I plan on going home tonight and holding my husband real close to me. We can never know fully what plan our Father in Heaven has for each of us, and though we have an eternal plan, our temporal mind still leaves us with shadows and discomfort with losses such as this, and the fear that it could happen at any time; the Lord calling one of our loved ones home sooner than we temporally expect. I am as much at fault as anyone, and I blame myself for not cherishing the mortal time with my family here on earth more than I have. I shame myself for waiting for experiences such as this to enlighten me to truths I already should know and hold more dear.
With that said, take a moment to forget about yourself, and to cherish everyone in your life, hug them close and tell them that you love them. For you’ll never know if it may be the final time…
From my heart to yours buddies, I love and cherish you all…
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I’m so sorry for your loss. As far as comforting words, ask him what his wife would want him to do. She would want him to live and live the best possible life he could and she would want him to give their a son a good life and to tell him all about her. She probably loved that little boy with all her heart and the last thing she would want is for him to be alone. Just be understanding with him and let him know you understand his sadness but that he’s still needed here. I wish you all the best during this time. Huggs
Honey, You don’t need the right words to say. You need the right heart to listen with. This man needs friends like you to share his grief, so just go there and be with him. Follow his lead and don’t offer advice he isn’t ready for yet. Just let him talk and let him know you love him and will miss her. I’m so sorry for your loss. Take care and thank you for sharing and reminding us all to treasure life. Ellen
I am so very sorry for your loss. So sad and such a tragedy. I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers. Take care of each other.
Jen, I am so sorry. Did everything go ok at the hospital? My heart hurts just to hear someone has to endure such loss and pain. I will too hold my family a little closer tonight.
I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. I will keep them in my prayers.
I’m sorry to hear about your friends accident. I will keep his family and yours in my prayers. You’ll know with your heart how to talk to him. Just being there to listen will help. I lost my first husband in a car accident when i was 19 and just having people listen to me helped. Give him a hug and make sure he knows you are there for him. Love ya!
“I shame myself for waiting for experiences such as this to enlighten me to truths I already should know and hold more dear.”
Jen Jen, no shame please my friend. It’s experiences like this that KEEPS us REMINDED of those truths and keeps us close to Him. Kinda like a child that you must teach and repeat over and over and over things they already know and should be doing but they don’t quite grasp it until they are grown. It is our responsibility as parents to keep repeating until they get it. Our Heavenly father loves us enough to keep us close to Him by events just such as this.
I know it’s hard to swallow and you just want to sit back and cry out “WHY DEAR LORD?” But its not for us to question, it is for us to accept in faith that He knows what He’s doing in the grand picture of things.
Love and hugggggggggs and my heartfelt sympathies for those lost in this tragedy. I wish I could reach right through this computer and put my arm around you and comfort in person.
xoxo
Shan
How sad, the only this that truly came to mind when I read this was how greatful I am for my knowledge of eternal families. The knowledge that he and Teacum will be reunited with her and live forever as an eternal family. I know his life will be very hard and that poor child will miss his mother terribly not understanding what happened. The only thing I can think to share with him is to teach or remind him of our Heavenly Fathers plan. His plan for us all to return to live with him again. His plan for us to be together forever. I am so gratful for my knowledge that this father and child may have to be alone for a short time in this life, but will be blessed to be with her forever in eternity.